friendship
just as i had some thoughts about this issue, i read dear sunder's blog abt the 3 species of friendship by Aristotle which kindda "strike" a chord with me too! haha
1. friendships of good people 2. friendships based on utility 3. friendships based on pleasure
and of coz i do know that we must treasure the friendship of good people and the latter 2 categories would be just based on social networks we need to have in life somehow. but just in that first category, im somehow having doubts about it. and the lines between the first and the others are just so grey sometimes. and thinking about that, i question myself if i was ever guilty of not truly providing the good people kindof friendship. especially when u have the other half with u, all other friendship seemed pale in comparison. which is a really sad thing. as much as i enjoy the bliss of being in the world of the friendship and love of just one person, yet i also think that one can't live without the friendship of many good people. and i can't actually decide which one "wins" over the other for me.
coz somehow i realise that friends can only give true friendship when their single and when the other half appears in one's life, u start straying away from your friends and it makes me start wondering if its worth giving in so much into that friendship when someday you know things will be different. and then i'll start thinking about what someone said to me before, that no one lives for another and need to depend on another - everyone is selfish and u only have urself to love n depend on. and thinking of that, makes u feel stronger and yet at the same time, sad that the world is such. anyway, the moral of the story i learnt today - if u are single, ur close true friends will also need to be single in order to accomodate to u. at least for me, i guess it is that way. selfish thought. nonsensical. i think it is. but thats what i feel. how sad. and im so totally guilty of that too.
to xianny: yeah! its the one opp katong mall! branch here now! haha so funky! u shud come here n eat if u want! hahaha. its nearer than katong when ure at BTC! :P
to kailyn: hahaha yeah in a way i agreee but the mudpie at coffeeclub wins everywhere hands down! haha thats the big difference! hehe and its less crowded! tcc overhyped! :)
4 comments:
Hiyo..
My dear dear penny,
Don't be cyn-ical..else I claim copyright to my name ya? =P
you can depend on me no matter what.. really, I promise to be there if you really need me.
i used to think that not everyone is 重色轻友。 then i saw how even people who promised not to be turned out to be so. but sth else brought me back to my previous belief. and i concluded it's different for different people.
i choose to keep believing in the ideals.. and i hope u dun be too pessimistic too!
by the way, i dun think u r.. time has to be sacrificed to fit r/s into one's lives, but as long as a new balance is found on the overall, it shud be fine!
btw, i wonder if it's coincidental.. i read that bit by aristotle and blogged abt it before too!
.. i believe tt ppl will CONFIRM dump u once they get attached..
bt dun worry babe.. i will always be single and ard for u! *grin*
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